The following steps represent my plan for increasing my safety and preparing in advance for the
possibility for further violence. Although I do not have control over my partner's abuse, I do have a
choice about how to respond to him/her and how to best get my children to safety.
Check the item(s) that you want to work on or have completed:
1. I can make an extra copy of the house and car keys and keep them in a secret place,
preferably outside of my house, so that I can leave quickly.
2. I can tell __________ and ____________ about the violence and request that they call the
police if they hear suspicious noises coming from my house.
3. I can teach my children how to use the telephone and contact the police.
4. I will develop a code word with my children and friends so they will know to call for help.
5. During an argument, I will avoid rooms with an outside door (i.e., bedroom or bathroom) or
those containing potential weapons (i.e., kitchen knives, guns, etc.)
6. I will teach my children to be safe by developing their own plan:
7. Stay in their bedroom or behind locked doors during argument.
a. Leave the house and go to a neighbor or friend's house.
b. Call 911
c. Tell a relative or trusted adult
8. I will call the police (911 or other emergency number).
9. If possible, I will get an a automatic "Speed dial" telephone which gives me one button
access to call the police.
10. If I have to leave the home, I will go to ___________ or ___________.
The decision to leave can be a difficult one. Although you may not be considering the possibility at
this time, it is very important to be prepared. An abuser will often become more dangerous when
they believe a partner is leaving a relationship. A careful plan is needed to promote safety.
Check the item(s) that you want to work on or have completed:
1. I will save a little money every week and place the cash in a place that only I know about.
2. I will leave money and an extra set of keys with ___________________.
3. I will open a savings account in my own name at _____________ in order to increase my
independence. I will make sure the statements are mailed somewhere other than to my home
4. The domestic violence shelter agency closest to my house is ___________ I can seek shelter
there 24 hours a day by calling __________________.
5. I can call and stay with ___________ or ____________ anytime of the day or night.
6. The closest telephone to my house is located at ____________________.
7. I will sit down and review my safety plan every ____ months and make all appropriate

REVIEW DATES: (1) __________ (2) __________ (3) _________
8. I will pack a change of clothes for me and for each of my children and place them in a safe
place (with friends, family or at work).

9. I will organize my important papers and put them in a place I can easily get to in case I need
to leave quickly. When I leave, I plan to take:
Birth Certificate
Green Cards
Bank Books
Address Book

Vehicle Registration
Social Security #
Abusers’ Social Security #
Medical/Immun. Records
Divorce/Separation Papers
Insurance Papers (health,
home, auto)
Lease/Rental Agreement

Mortgage Papers/House Deed
Pictures, Jewelry, sentimental

Children’s favorite toys and
All court orders/documentation
of abuse
10. I will rehearse my escape plan and, if appropriate, rehearse it with my children.
Leaving an abusive relationship is a very difficult step, and one of courage and strength. This step
can also be dangerous if you do not plan in advance to maintain safety for yourself and your
children. Many times an abuser feels that they have lost control of the relationship and will go to
great lengths to restore this control. A careful plan is needed to promote safety and avoid another
incidence of violence.
Check the item(s) that you want to work on or have completed:
1. I will obtain an Order of Protection for myself an my children at ______________.
2. Once I have the Order I will keep it with me at all times, and provide a copy for my children’s
school/day care, and my place of employment or school.
3. If possible, I will change locks and install metal/steel entry doors, a security system, smoke
detectors, and any outside lighting system.
4. I will inform ___________ and _____________ that my abuser no longer lives at my
residence, and ask them to call the police should they observe him/her near my home.
5. I will inform my children’s school/day care/care-giver of who has permission to pick up my
children by providing a written list.
6. I will inform my co-workers, _____________, about my situation and request that they screen
my calls.
7. I can avoid social places and situations (known restaurants, banks, stores, bars)
______________ that I frequented while living with my abuser.
8. If I feel upset or down and want to return to the abusive relationship, I can call
______________ or _______________ for support.
Congratulations! You have taken important steps to increase your safety and future choices!

Safety Tips

Have the following items hidden in a place where your partner cannot find them:

  • $50 or more in cash

  • A small bag with clothing, personal items for you and your children, medications, etc.

  • Extra keys to the house and car

  • Important phone numbers

  • Loose change for pay phones

  • A picture of your abuser

  • Any important paperwork

  • A record of all incidents

If you and your partner are not living together:

  • Change the locks on you doors

  • Keep legal papers with you at all times

  • Create a safety plan for coming and going from home and work, and share it with your children and co-workers

  • Show the people you trust a picture of your partner and tell them to call the police if he or she is seen on your property

  • Screen mail, email and phone calls

  • Be alert and aware


Computer Safety


If you have a feeling your activities are being monitored on your computer, they most likely are. 

Abusers are often controlling and want to know your every move.
If you are seeking information about domestic violence, it is possible your partner is tracking this information.


It is important to protect your online activities.


Spyware, hacking, and keystroke loggers are some examples of ways your partner may be monitoring your activity. It is still possible for someone to gather information about your activities on the computer, even if you are careful about deleting your browser history.


It is also possible for someone to remotely hack into your computer.


Please review the following tips and information from the National Network to End Domestic Violence:
(each link has an option to convert to Spanish)


Technology Safety Plan -

Technology Safety Quick Tips -

12 Cellphone Tips -

App Safety Consideration -


RU Safe? App -